Someone keeps asking me for money
What to do when the asking never stops, and what the Prophet ﷺ told a man who came to him for help.
لَأن يَأخُذَ أحَدُكُم حَبلَه، فيَأتيَ بحُزمةِ الحَطَبِ على ظَهرِه، فيَبيعَها، فيَكُفَّ اللهُ بها وجهَه خَيرٌ له مِن أن يَسألَ النَّاسَ أعطَوْه أو مَنَعوه
“For one of you to take his rope and bring a bundle of firewood on his back and sell it, so that Allah preserves his dignity by it, is better for him than begging from people, whether they give him or refuse him.”Translated by Muhsin Khan
Sahih al-Bukhari 1471
Narrator : al-Zubayr ibn al-AwwamGraded by : al-BukhariSource :
The answer here is not “stop giving.” It is that repeated asking costs the person asking something, and the kindest response is often the one that ends the need rather than the one that meets it again this month.
What to doGive what you can this time, then ask them one question: what would make this the last time? Help with that instead.
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