I cannot forgive myself for something
On the difference between remorse that repairs and remorse that only punishes.
قال اللهُ عزَّ وجلَّ: أنا عِندَ ظَنِّ عَبدي بي، وأنا معهُ حَيثُ يَذكُرُني، واللهِ لَلَّهُ أفرَحُ بتَوبةِ عَبدِه مِن أحَدِكُم يَجِدُ ضالَّتَه بالفَلاةِ، ومَن تَقَرَّبَ إلَيَّ شِبرًا تَقَرَّبتُ إليه ذِراعًا، ومَن تَقَرَّبَ إلَيَّ ذِراعًا تَقَرَّبتُ إليه باعًا، وإذا أقبَلَ إلَيَّ يَمشي أقبَلتُ إليه أُهَروِلُ
“Allah, mighty and majestic, said: I am as My servant thinks of Me, and I am with him wherever he remembers Me. By Allah, Allah rejoices more at the repentance of His servant than one of you who finds his lost mount in the desert. Whoever draws near to Me a handspan, I draw near to him an arm's length; whoever draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom; and if he comes to Me walking, I come to him at speed.”Translated by Uswah draft, awaiting review
Sahih Muslim 2675
Narrator : Abu HurayraGraded by : MuslimSource :
Remorse that changes what you do next is doing its work. Remorse that only replays the scene is a habit wearing the clothes of repentance.
What to doName the repair, however partial, and do that instead of remembering again.
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I cannot stop being angry
What to do in the minute the anger arrives, before it decides anything for you.
I keep putting off the thing I know I should do
Delay is rarely about time. It is usually about the size of the first step.
I said something I cannot take back
On the hours after the sentence leaves your mouth, and what repair actually asks of you.