I am carrying my family alone
On being the one everyone leans on, and what happens when nobody asks how you are.
السَّاعي على الأرمَلةِ والمِسكينِ كالمُجاهِدِ في سَبيلِ اللهِ، أوِ القائِمِ اللَّيلَ الصَّائِمِ النَّهارَ
“The one who strives on behalf of the widow and the poor is like the one who strives in the way of Allah, or like one who stands the night in prayer and fasts the day.”Translated by Uswah draft, awaiting review
Sahih al-Bukhari 5353
Narrator : Abu HurayraGraded by : al-BukhariSource :
Being depended on is not the same as being cared for, and the difference is invisible from outside because the work gets done either way.
What to doTell one person in the family one true thing about how you are. Do not soften it.
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Someone keeps asking me for money
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My boss wronged me and I said nothing
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