A friend let me down when it mattered
On the difference between forgiving someone and trusting them with the same thing again.
لا يُلدَغُ المُؤمِنُ مِن جُحرٍ واحِدٍ مَرَّتَينِ
“The believer is not stung from the same hole twice.”Translated by Uswah draft, awaiting review
Sahih al-Bukhari 6133
Narrator : Abu HurayraGraded by : al-BukhariSource :
These are two separate decisions and they get confused constantly. You can drop the grievance entirely and still not hand them the same responsibility twice.
What to doForgive now. Decide about trust separately, later, and on evidence.
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What is worth answering, and what is worth outliving.
I avoid someone because I wronged them
On the distance that guilt builds, and why it grows the longer it is left.
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What to do when the asking never stops, and what the Prophet ﷺ told a man who came to him for help.