I found out someone spoke badly of me
What is worth answering, and what is worth outliving.
مَن كان يُؤمِنُ باللهِ واليَومِ الآخِرِ فليُكرِمْ ضَيفَه، ومَن كان يُؤمِنُ باللهِ واليَومِ الآخِرِ فليَصِلْ رَحِمَه، ومَن كان يُؤمِنُ باللهِ واليَومِ الآخِرِ فليَقُلْ خَيرًا أو ليَصمُتْ
“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honour his guest; whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him keep his ties of kinship; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or keep silent.”Translated by Uswah draft, awaiting review
Sahih al-Bukhari 6138
Narrator : Abu HurayraGraded by : al-BukhariSource :
Most of it needs no answer at all. The test is narrow: does the claim change what someone can do to you, or only how you feel? Only the first is worth a conversation.
What to doIf it changes nothing but your mood, let it stand and let time answer it.
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